When you have love or relationship issues and you need an advice, where do you go to? A lot of people run to Joro Olumofin, the famous Love Doctor… I am not sorry if you do not know him.
Even if you don’t know him, I’m sure you must have heard of the trend on a lot of ladies shooting their shot, proposing to their men. Well, a lot of them you don’t know ended we but a lot of them you know didn’t end well
1- The Fear of NO: A lot of ladies don’t mind sending a guy a DM, walking up to a guy at the mall and saying I like you but the Fear of Rejection keeps them in check. A lot of ladies believe if he tells me NO I’m less of a woman and my wife material has decreased.
2- Culture: Nigerian youths, especially our ladies
Love the western culture but they will never assimilate the western culture of asking a man out on a date or proposing.
3- Cognition of a Nigerian man: A lot of Nigerian men believe if a lady walks up to them and says let’s date it means she’s desperate and also I can try anything and everything with her.
4- Religion: “He who finds a good wife finds a good thing “, these words have been sunk into the Cognition and Mental Archetypes of all ladies from a tender age. So most ladies will not go “find” a man or “shoot their shot” because their faith says otherwise
5- Social Media / Trends: Of recent, there have been public rejections from guys telling ladies NO. These rejections went viral and have discouraged ladies who intended to propose to their men.
6- To A lot of ladies shooting your Shoot is not Romantic
7- Longevity: There is a notion that most men don’t want to get married. When a man decides he wants to get married his mindset is ready for the journey. If a woman proposes to a man his mind may not be ready but he may say yes. The relationship won’t last
8- Control: Whoever initiates the date takes control of the financial aspects of the date. A lot of ladies are not open to financial responsibility in dating
9- Peer Pressure: Even if a lady saw the man of her dreams her friends would convince her not to talk to him.
10 – Most Nigerian ladies won’t shoot their shot because it makes them look weak and needy.
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